The adventure I will not be reliving...

Spring clover was so green and deep this year

    

    Spring break was an interesting one this year.  The Friday it started my brain was already mush from weeks of no sleep.  We had an impromptu dinner with two neighboring families.  Half the things I said made no sense, and a few interesting glances confirmed it.  A trip away started the next day, followed by three nights of no sleep and then a parenting challenge.  Though we figured out how to handle the situation, in the middle of it I realized how done my brain was.  A few more days later and I send a PM on IG to a friend and it makes no sense...on rereading it, it even seems mean, just not me.  I apologized, but realized the brain fog was worse than I thought.

    I first experienced "adrenal fatigue" when our second was 20months old. Lots of stress from a family situation and a baby/toddler that didn't like sleep.  I researched, I applied everything that felt right for me, followed my intuition and healed it.  I remember telling my husband how I have to always incorporate smoothies and yoga in my life from then on...that was 7 years ago. Then twins, I don't think I need to explain that one, we moved when they were 3.5months old to a rental with lots of boxes and then again when they were 18months old.  I managed the fatigue well considering everything going on.  Occasional brain fog, lots of lost sleep, exercise was really hard.  There was always times of recovery, I deepened my gratitude practice, and saw the beauty in everything.

    I made a commitment to finish projects and to get back to what is important.  The last time I slept, without interruption and woke feeling rested was 6 months ago, and before that over a year.  That day was amazing, I did everything and didn't want to stop!  I keep it in my mind to remember it is possible and I will make it back there.  Celery juice and a bunch of great herbals do help...but there is a lot that is different this time.

    I don't like excuses, I grow up with too many, and I know I can do it all.  I wanted to share what it feels like so people understand, so others can find the help they need and to have accountability for the discipline I need moving forward.  I stopped drinking smoothies when it got cold, yoga just didn't feel right, I am so far in my head all day long that I am constantly thinking about the next thing on the todo list instead of being present.  This is not a self care issue, I am sure I will get messages on that one.  The latest research shows "adrenal fatigue" as a multisystem occurrence, down to a cellular/mitochondrial level.  It is so hard to find where to cut in on the cycle, like so many chronic illnesses today.  This is not a post about what causes it and all the things I have done or tell clients to try...It is time for me to stop treating everyone else first this time (I will keep repeating it is not a selfcare issue, it is deeper and a healer related thing I will write about later).

    This time it was so different.  It snuck up on me.  It is the heavy true brain fog that can be mistaken for cognitive issues.  I can have a paragraph in my head and the moment I try to say the words it all falls apart, it is so thick, and then I am left there wondering why the words came out that way and if the person I said them to will be able to understand why it happened when I apologize for the 10th+ time.  My body feels great 90% of the time, I am training with my husband and friends for the memorial day #MurphChallenge2021, I feel stronger for the first time in a long time.  The fatigue, waking between 2:30-3:30 were hard, and after last week have caused some tears.  The normal hair loss that comes, didn't, It has actually grown back, but it is normally delayed so we will see next week.  So much of my body feels great, but my brain is done.  I think it is a lot of different things this time, but the lack of sleep triggered the regression and brain fog.  It feels so much like burn out, which is interesting when I think of other healthcare workers and moms in the middle of the storm.  I can see how easy it is to confuse the two, when we can get defensive when people tell us we just need a break, to meditate, have "self care" time, etc.  My from of selfcare is not the same as what mom bloggers deem correct in todays age...but that is for another time. Already I am reading back my words wondering if this even makes sense, adding in may make this all fall apart and no one will be able to follow it...but then I think it needs to just stay that way, authentic to the moment and my experience.

 So a picture and another thought...

    I think it is ok to go through cycles in life, we come out better off in the end.  The top picture is our wisteria before we left on our trip, before two unexpected low temp nights.  It is late in the year for a freeze here, though frost happens often until May.  The one side was almost full bloom and the other we thought would be ready when we returned.  We came home to them all dead, looking freezer burned and growth stopped mid bloom.  A week later, three small flower bunches and leaves coming through.  This year there will be a fraction of the invasive seeds, though beautiful this 25+ year old vine has probably cause a lot of damage over the years in neighboring woods (since moving here we try to contain the seeds/pods the best we can but we can't get every one).  Nature knows when it needs a break.  It knows when to flower, or our dying (normal life cycle) pines know when to cone, the clover to fill the fields for the nitrogen and flowers for the bees, the freeze that helps the cycle, the wind that calms or fuels the cycles, the rain that restores, on and on.  I need to get out of my own way, stop overthinking, play, sit in the silence, make the todo list smaller, breath deeper, allow people to do things, even if it is not my way, stop volunteering to help, sit in my garden, let my intuition flow 100% instead of 40.  I am working on reconnecting my mind, body and spirit, breaking the habit of waking, decreasing my cortisol levels and more.  This is more a post about naming it so it is real, not an excuse, but a letting go.  Thank you for your patients with my words, I know I will find them again, along with a few other things that have lost their way.  For now I send you lots of love and light on your own healing journey.

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It has taken me almost 40 years, but...

     Confession and Commitment Time

     4 months away from 40 and last week I finally accepted something I have been pondering since spring.  I don't owe anyone an explanation, excuse, reason, data to back it, a dissertation, thesis or autobiography.

   

     I come from a family that is always ready with an excuse, quite often good ones mind you, but excuses nonetheless.  Why have I pondered this so much lately?  I know some insanely smart women, if you look at their degrees or compare our GPAs, by mainstream definition, they would surpass me or my fellow clinically smart colleagues.  I believe common sense, critical thinking and reasoning skills outweigh memorization and the ability to conform to the group's understanding of modern concepts.

    These insanely smart women could have done so many powerful things in the last 6 months, but they've chosen to conform.  I will never forget learning about group think for the first time, hearing how it could have been prevented, trying to understand how a whole group of people could smile, nod and say yes; and not one person could stand up and say the group/leader/system was wrong.  I think of the lives that could be saved if that one person would just say something.  But I get it.  For most of my life, especially mom life (I'm guessing many of the moms out there can relate), I felt obligated to give an excuse or especially an explanation for my actions/choices, beliefs, attendance, my children's actions, the list goes on.  It is easier to just conform, to not use our beautiful brain and critical thinking skills.

    I've talked to my husband a lot about it over the last two years... Why is it that a man with less education than I, can state a belief and someone believes it without a dissertation, but when I make the same recommendation, everyone wants cited credible references.  My countless hours of research and credentials matter nothing compared to an engineer, doctor or lawyer that is good at remembering a lot of dates and numbers, but can't tell you how to apply any of that information.  We would talk, he would give me an engineer's explanation of why the numbers were important, but then couldn't explain to me why the man version had more credibility over mine... One thing that did seem to matter is that I practice what I preach.  Instead of just saying it, I should do it.  Now these are my words, and something I have known for years now, but this time hearing it from him in a different light made sense.  As an example, if I am going to teach someone all the science behind exercise I better look like I apply that knowledge.  If I am going to help women get healthy through diet and lifestyle change, I better be able to tell them how it has helped my daily life or what my routine looks like.

Winter homesteading 

Sumer Homestead lady

    I need to hold myself accountable and have more discipline in the area of self care, but I don't owe anyone an explanation or an excuse...there is a difference though, and so many entwine the two.  I have to show up for myself everyday, I have work to do, I will constantly improve and grow, but that doesn't mean I need to explain it to the world when I miss the mark (set way to high by unrealistic society standards).  This journey is mine, I will honor yours and not push my belief on you, and commit to self care, accountability and more discipline in this new decade of life.
   

    If you want to change the world, go home and love your family. -Mother Teresa.

    So what is your point, your turning 40, people don't listen to you, you lost me...
I have lost confidence in myself and my knowing (not the book stuff but the real stuff our intuition and source tells us).  I can blame it on other's reactions to what I say or do, but that is an excuse.  No amount of education can replace critical thinking, common sense and most importantly, following your intuition.  I have never regretted following my gut, but most defiantly regretted the choices I made because I felt pressure to follow the mainstream.  I need my confidence back, I need to be the most authentic me and I won't let the words of a book smart friend/family/stranger take it away from me again.  I will be kind and true to me, but this is a hidden boundary I have lacked in my life and boundaries are beautiful things.

    I finally, at almost 40, understand the power of this word...Fuck it, Fuck off, What the Fuck, Fucking ridiculous, I mean I could go on.  I use to feel the word as so angry and hostile...now...it feels releasing, though nothing to do with it's original meaning.  I doesn't matter what you think of me, my education, my background, misspelled words, my values or beliefs.  There is one exception to this rule, as I tell my children, I have to be doing the right think always, in other words, living my purpose.  You have every right to tell me if I have done something to offend you, I want to know, I want to make it right, I want to grow/change/be a better human.  If I am always doing the right thing, then I know what is best for my family not you.  I know what is best for my body, not you and especially not a system that's only interest is profit.  You will not make me feel terrible for my choices, I will no longer stay quite when you try to make me, I do not need to cite every reference because I am a "tiny" women (true story)...which by the way fuck that and just watch what I can do...I am strong, I am powerful, I am light, I am a healer, a truth seeker, and this...

Xavier Dgba

    So here I am 4 months from 40, committing to myself, growing my confidence, playing more, spreading love and light, my health and wellbeing, reaching more, healing more, growing my garden and homestead, and not judging myself based on your standards.  I see the beauty in you, I say a blessing that you will find that moment on your journey when you have a choice to be awake or fall back to sleep, and you choose the light.  Namaste y'all, I honor you and send you light.  

Cheers to turning 40 <3

These pictures were hard to post, I don't show me...another thing I am practicing...

Our Children are Our Greatest Teachers

.Our children are our greatest teachers

They choose us, just as we choose them.

I had a wonderful conversation with my 10 year old a few days ago.
And after a lot of thought, journaling and wonder, I wanted to share my thoughts.

She had a disagreement with her younger brother, and I could feel her rage. I asked her to sit with it, explore the feelings she was having and then to tell me why she is lashing out or having to get physical...though she looks so cute, she is around 6 months away from her black belt.

I have made it a point to over communicate emotions with them since they were very young...we believe it is never too young to start the conversation and it is so good for them to learn how to express themselves. She then said something to me that just clicked, and a flood or memories, people, events came flowing back.

She expressed the reason for the behavior was to make her brother feel her anger.

Think about that for a minute. How many times have you heard someone say I want them to feel pain, I want to make them change, I want them to see/understand why.
I suddenly had so much clarity from so many directions.

I wanted to share with you what the universe helped me to relay to her and why it is important for all of us.

-People will never really be able to feel your anger or your pain. The lens they are viewing their journey through is very unique to them, and 10 years from now it will shift focus and the meaning will again change. No one will ever completely understand your anger, pain, frustrations in this human world (her sweet face when she realized this and asked why).

-I gave her the example of forgiveness. It is very similar, since people often treat forgiveness as an emotion and then withhold it. When people treat it this way they expect the other person will then feel all the other emotions they have felt in regards to the event that caused the original need for unforgiveness...So if they felt hurt, unwanted, unheard, disloyal or even betrayed, they want that person to feel what they felt. But what people don't understand is that unforgiveness is "like taking a poison and expecting it to kill someone else" so that withholding forgiveness will never hurt the other person only self...For the grownups reading, this means there is a lot of ego exploring that needs to take place and many questions we should be asking ourselves. I gave her examples of some amazing people she knows, yet they choose this behavior and then the consequences they dealt with...in the end forgiveness is an ask of self care and should be done often, not withheld.  

-We cannot make people feel our pain, change, acknowledge you and your feelings, this is all anyone really wants.

-We are not our emotions. You are not anger, it is good to feel it, but don't become it.

-We can choose the path that our anger flows. 

-We should not suppress our anger so it becomes a part of us, defines us/actions, but we need to see it for what it is and let it go.

-Anger is a powerful energy. It can destroy, but it can also create.

-When we choose to acknowledge our own anger without expecting someone else to, we create an opportunity to change.

-Anger is not bad. Anger can change the world

-But...But, using force behind that anger doesn't make you right, doesn't make people agree with/or feel you. 

It changes that powerful energy into something dark
It causes fear
It suppresses the light
and light in the darkest places of our soul is the only way we will feel heard, loved, accepted, acknowledged etc

-Anger is for us to feel, to see it, acknowledge it, to let go of the tension and/or attachment with it and then to co-create change. We all hold infinite possibility within us.

I learned so much from her...for me, for empathy to others on their journey and how to handle hard conversations with family members.
We are co-creators on this journey. We have to take fear and the need to be right/heard out of the equation and shine a light deep within us.
I want my children to let go of the need to control others, to change them, to make them feel anything they will never truly understand.

I will continue to teach them anger is good, but it is what they do next that can define the event, change the course of action, and create a new direction or way of thinking.

I will continue to show them with my own actions, to express emotions like anger and frustration, by communicating well with others and asking for what we need.

I will continue to show them we do not suppress emotions. Neglecting our emotions and mental health leads to suppression, which then causes imbalance and disease.

I love that my kiddos are learning how important our energetic health is and how we can prevent disease with energy work. A healthy diet can only get you so far if you're not willing to let go of anger, fear and unforgiveness.

What are you doing within your own journey to let go of attachment to emotion?
If you aren't there yet, would you be willing to explore one emotion this week, and acknowledge that feeling, so it will help you explore why you are attached to it?

I encourage everyone to help your kiddos use their words, explore their emotions and instead of preaching it, teach it by showing them...leading them with love in the right direction, then get out of the way and listen. They are our greatest teachers.

Crossing off the list...

-Teaching them (kiddos) mindfulness and stress management

You may have noticed this one on my 2016 Goals post, you may have thought it was interesting, or why do you need to teach your 4 and 51/2 year old stress management?  Let me explain...

I grew up on country roads, four wheeling, camping, boating, fishing, tubing, small town, cheerleader, happy and lots of good memories.  At the time, and for the most part now, my childhood seemed normal...it is only when I tell someone a story, that I realize how crazy and stressful life was.  From high school and through college (and even now)  my family dynamics changed with a family member suffering from mental illness diagnosis and everything that goes with it.  There was a lot of stress, I remember not wanting to go home in the summer from college two years in a row, but I managed to handle it well.  Then I met my husband, I learned how calm and peaceful life could be, but this brought a down side.

In a great book The Last Best Cure, Donna J. Nakazawa researches the mind body connection and how stress from events long ago can change how our body response to disease and stress later in life.  This connection is something I am well aware of, not only as a midwife, but my own life experience.  I have watched many family members suffer from unknown disease with strange origins, and realized how powerful our minds really are.  Now that I am older, have found peace and find comfort in spiritual growth, I handle stress so differently than I use to.  You would think my hippy zen self could handle it...well this psst year kicked my rump.  So what did I do?  I continued our journey of healthy eating, found new ways to heal through diet, including supporting my adrenals (more on that later), learned to say no and create boundaries ( I am a helper and a fixer, but if people keep taking and I don't fill myself back up there is nothing more I can give, and that helps no one).  I realized that it is like the book talks about, my stress level preset is higher than normal because of life events from earlier years.  Though I handled things well then, anxiety can arise now that triggers a cascade in my body I cannot control.  I know that my genetics say one thing, but I can help control the epigenetics through environment, food and stress management.  Let's leave the genetics for later and get back for my goal for 2016...



So what does this have to do with the kiddos?  I was watching them do yoga one day, while I was in the kitchen cooking and planning out healthy meals for the week.  I have a lot of mindful moments when I am there, it helps me breath, regroup, and see the bigger picture about things.  I heard this voice in my head that said, it is more important to teach them how to be mindful and manage stress than to sweat the small stuff in the kitchen.  It was a big moment for me, it gave me permission to let go of things and to shift my attention to how they are perceiving their environment.  This notion started after my husband and I read a book with a group at church.  The book, How to Raise and Adult, discuses over parenting issues and entitlement in the new generation of young adults and how to break free from it (more on this later).  One of my favorite parts is near the end when the author tells a story about the typical soccer mom doing too much and in the car at practice or a game all the time.  I recommend reading the book, but the moral was, instead of telling our kids what is important why not show them?  If it is exercise then go on a run instead of complaining on the side lines of a soccer game your kid hates to begin with.  No judgment zone here, my oldest loves soccer and one day I am sure we will be there, but right now I play soccer in the yard with her, go on runs, do yoga, dance in the kitchen, show her how to do a cartwheel, laugh a lot, sing loudly, etc.  

They showed me that day, when they asked to do yoga unprompted, that I am doing ok.  I am showing them how to eat well just by doing it not preaching it, I am showing them stress management every time I get on the mat, or take a breath before answering a hard question/conflict, being mindful, trying o so hard to watch what I say and mean it when I do.  I want to teach them stress management and help maintain a low stress point level that will help them later in life.  This won't happen with me telling them what to do, then doing the opposite.  Taking time away from our addiction to busyness, to care for ourselves and see the bigger picture, is a practice we have to grow.  Why not teach them now so they are better equipped to handle life as they grow.

The "balance" so many of use seek is right here, so don't go looking too far...it is in their eyes, actions, our words, gratitude, breath and choices everyday.  Chose to be present even when it sucks, cause the reality is it doesn't.  Out of all the craziness this year our family is closer, stronger and more importantly here.  We are healthy and have each other, growing and learning everyday, I have so much to be thankful for and look forward to.  We are all a work in progress, but once you know better it is time to start doing better.


The Cosmic Kid Yoga Channel  so fun your kids will love it!

Yoga with Adriene  my fav. easy going laid back yogi 

Who needs a yoga mat

So why are the kids laying in the driveway...at night...and with snow everywhere?

Dad asked what they wanted to do...you know sled, play in the snow, go in and read or play a game before bed.  Yoga...yup they asked to do yoga.  Dad said inside? Nope outside, and thus the impromptu yoga from the fun channel we found on youtube started.

I think it is the stillness.  The snow brings quite, a time to reflect, be still.  I was out this morning taking pictures...

 

The girls were not having it, decided the coop and their oatmeal treat was the only way to go...

I just wanted to sit down meditate, or just listen to my breath.  The silence and beauty all around was amazing.  Kids just do, they don't overthink or have the boxes and labels we do as adults.  They think they can, so they do.  They feel and are connected to this world on a deeper level, though they may not always express it in words.  It is important we give them tools so they can express what they are feeling around them...this time it was yoga.  They sat down and connected with the earth, the beautiful snow and stillness around them.  It was fun to watch their concentration, they just trusted and did it.  No second guessing or questioning, it just was.  They came inside happy and had the best time playing trains together before bed.
I hope you can find stillness this week, reset and be the awesomeness that I know you are...

This print sits on my dresser as a reminder.  If you like the art check out Katie Daisy!  I love her work

ps I have a whole post about kids, yoga and that channel I was talking about, coming soon!

Adventure of having a boy

You never know what you will find walking into the bathroom, playroom, opening his drawers, car seat, you name it.  They are so sweet, steal your heart and little monsters at the same time...I am so thankful for my (not so) little boy.

Said boy will be 4 in a few days.  We are full on party planning, while prepping for "the storm!"
If you want to experience pure hysteria, move to the metro DC/VA/MD area right in time for a flurry or two, not to mention the two feet we are expected to get...Oh goodness or silliness more like it.

Mostly I think it is beautiful, specially the sun rise before the storm...

Kiddos playing and planning the next snowball fight...

Or witty librarian humor...

Wherever you are choose to be open to, new possibilities, God's beauty in a sun rise or single snowflake...and sweet little boys that aren't so little anymore.  I want to breath him in deep every time he gives me a hug and says I love you, not worry about and be open to the crazy behavior a normal 4 year old boy has.  I don't want to forget the little things, I want to tell him what he was like at almost four, and I want to teach him how to live in the moment and love big.
Happy Birthday my sweet petit homme...

Making exercise a priority...

Crossing off the list one goal at a time

Almost two years ago I stumbled on a wonderful yoga site after searching for a home practice that would fit my style.  I hate voice overs... most of the yogis are way to serious and into showing what they can do and that defeats the point of yoga for me.  I love doing yoga on the beach, it combines all the things I love, but the thought people may think I am doing it for show makes me shy away from it (hey work in progress right?)
Yoga with Adriene makes me laugh, work, smile, show up, find what feels good, commit, practice XYZ (*balance, discipline, stillness etc), it just clicked with me from day one.  She wants all people to find the pleasure of practicing yoga no matter the stuff they bring with them or skill level...yoga really is for everyone, check her out and you will see what I mean.

What else am I doing to make exercise a priority?  Show up, start early, change it up, keep moving and doing it with a partner/friend.  While yoga has been a solo path for me for a few years, my husband and I started strength training together.  I really believe when you do things that the other partner enjoys or is passionate about it helps deepen a relationship.  So he found this site and app called StrongLifts.  It is a great way to track a work out, start small, track your progress and learn about strength training.

This is one goal I will be adjusting and improving with time.  Last year I did Adriene's 30 day yoga challenge to start the year and really recommit to practice.  It was amazing how my body and stress level responded and I could tell when I went one too many days without it.  This year she is offering Yoga Camp, a 30 day practice with mantras and a focus on foundations of yoga.  She also offers a lot of free videos and paid programs (this is not sponsored I just love the channel).  I need to keep moving my body this winter, getting outside and exploring new ways to keep my body healthy through movement.  I have a good start, but also have weaknesses just like anyone else...

Cause sometimes you still need the giant cookie and bottle of wine...

What do you do to calm your mind and strengthen your body?

2016 mantras

For the last 5 years or so I have reflected back on my year and realized there was a theme or lesson I was learning.  One year mindfulness, another change and what that means when people won't, learning to say no and set boundaries, and more.  Sometimes that year has a word or phrase that keeps coming up.  This year when wrote down goals I thought a list of mantras that will guide me this year would also be useful.  I will add to it as I go and update as events happen that are worth talking about...

Lake house view

My Mantra list 2016

I have been a seeker and I still am, but I stopped asking the books and the stars. I started listening to the teaching of my soul. - Rumi

I am Light

Create

Every meeting in our lives is in some way orchestrated by a divine force...and the strangers to whom we are drawn have something to teach us  -Dr. Wayne Dyer

trust, listen, awaken

Places or things that help me feel grounded in everyday life

-My kitchen

when i am cooking or doing the dishes I start to notice my breath and mindfulness flows from that space


-Garden, chickens or being outside

  grounding, getting in the dirt, the sun, simplicity, letting go, connecting



-A warm bath, cup of tea or just a few minutes to myself to regroup

Do you have a mantra you follow?  a new one for a new year?  something you hope to focus on or even release?  Share below or on Facebook!  

2016 Goals

To Do List
(in order they can to me as I wrote them in my gratitude journal Jan. 1st)

-Work on my handstand
-More yoga poses
-Connecting to source and self
-Family/Career path decided
-Creativity explored
-Mindfulness explored
-Exercise a priority on the to do list
-Teaching them (kiddos) mindfulness and stress management
-Finishing started projects
-Paint at least once 
-Paint with the kiddos
*Listen more  -to God     -kids       -intuition     -source
                        -husband/BFF/partner/Love 
-More tea dates


Last years goals

-Handstand
-More yoga
-Healthy eating/living, gardening, getting outside
-continuing the 2014 goal of mindful living and exploring what that means
-Managing stress better

Naples, FL celebrating a great man's life.

My list will help guide my writing this year.  I have had so many topics swimming in my head the last three years...hoping to tackle a few.  This picture is how I want to feel and connect everyday.  How about you?  What shapes your year, your list?  What do you want to accomplish in 2016?  

A New Year Challenge

I recently posted about The Story of Stuff Project.  It was a personal reflection on how I feel about all the "stuff" in our lives and the consumer driven society that we are.  The more I thought about it, the more I thought I could do something in my life and my families to reflect my beliefs.  I still feel it's a balance, and a delicate one, between enjoying life and our success and over indulgence or excess. 

The "Challenge"

Buy Less
Buy Local
Buy handmade

After talking about my concept to my husband he added to the challenge, buy efficiently.  Some times we think the farmers market or a local shop is the best option because we are supporting local efforts.  He brought up the fact that not all local options are bringing their product to market efficiently; ie they are contributing to excess, wasting energy, increased physical waste, etc.

So this year I embark on a new challenge...Finding local vendors, local produce/meat, handmade items, up-cycled or reclaimed items, and much more.  I look forward to sharing this new adventure with you and welcome ideas, local shops and advise from all of you.

The Story of Stuff Project and how it has started the wheels in my head

The Story of Stuff

The website above, The Story of Stuff project, goes into something I have felt/said for a long time...there is way too much stuff out there to buy! and where does it all go?  Now there is a site with research and real numbers to help illustrate how bad the problem really is.

I remember all the shopping when I moved out on my own, buying towels, sheets, etc. Then a few months later the big named stores taking everything off their selves and restocking for the next season. It blew my mind that there was so much on the selves and that people kept buying...and where does the leftover stuff go?
I remember feeling burdened by the whole concept of materialism and having a comforter for every holiday and season....don't get me wrong, I like to decorate, I like to feel like my space reflects our taste, and yes we have two comforters (one for summer, one for winter). But, I think self expression and accessorizing for the climate is way different then the problem our country is facing.

Point and case, our current economy. I have been saying for years, we are buying/selling too much! People are too focused on keeping up with the Jones' that they have lost tack of what is really important and even more so they have lost a senses of self.  Getting wrapped up in stuff can only lead to unhappiness...look at our country today.  So many have spread themselves too thin trying to buy the bigger house and faster car.  People blame the banks, but think about it...couple A gets a promotion, they buy a bigger house, but wait, still only saving the same amount because the bigger house off sets the promotion.  Then you need "stuff" to fill the house because god forbid anyone sees an empty room.  First paycheck, wow look at the money...humm we need a car.  A year later and the credit cards are maxed and no one gets why they can't afford their house.
I was not raised that way...Couple B gets a promotion...They save their money to put a larger down payment on a house (20% or more) thus lowering their monthly payments.  They have no credit card debt and believe you only charge what you can pay off every month.  They don't care their cars are a few years older, they take care of what they own and have no extra monthly bills.  There is no cable bill.  They get out and take advantage of the area we live in (parks, museums, free things!).  When their mortgage statement comes, they pay it with ease, have money for groceries, travel and to put into savings.  Obviously I am being extreme, but you get my point...

Why do we find the need to live in such a disposable world?  After watching this video I was sad to see this vicious cycle and how I contribute on a daily basis.  The whole "going green" movement makes me laugh...why? because it shouldn't be a movement! It should be how we live everyday.  I grew up always interested in what is now a "movement"  so in someways it is nice.  I can now find products that were hard to get before and people know what I am talking about...but the downside, it is also being commercialized and turned into stuff.

How do we get ride of it all? how do we break the cycle?  One way is to buy local, homemade, and buy less (or less often).  There are local farmer's markets, online vendors to support homemade items and buy items that are reusable instead of disposable.  Also, don't be sucked into needing the latest and greatest shinning object...they are taking your money and the old item is polluting the system in so many ways.
I am starting to make handmade/crafty things myself.  One thing I have decided, find a shipping material that is recyclable.  At home we save all the boxes or recycle them, but think about all that bubble wrap and plastic that gets thrown out.  Another way, don't live outside your means, why? usually this means you are buying and spending too much, which in turn contributes to the cycle and unhappiness or loss of self.  Don't let your stuff define you! You define you and where you are going in life.

Before I didn't think there was much I could do to help the problem...but now I am starting to brainstorm again.  I have that problem where I think I can save the world, but then my realistic side kicks in and I know I can't...but hey maybe starting on a small level will pay off.  One things for sure, that save the world thing is never going to leave my personality, so I should give in and feel accomplished and not defeated by the little things I can improve/change.
What I really wish, is that there was away to bring down the cost of eating healthy, organic and more access to the local vendors...maybe that's my next project.


Have you done anything to help impact your community?  Share with us, and if not I challenge you to come up with an idea.  It doesn't have to be a big one, and you can do it as a group.  For example, there is a mom group I do a cloth diaper swap with.  Being green and teaching moms that want to try it out, how it all works.  So it can be something small like that (and you get to enjoying meet people, and being a community) or it could be something big.  I would love to hear your ideas!

I think its a balance...We can't work and save our money forever, that just burns people out; but we can't spend it all either.  When you buy something do the research spend a little more and get a better quality item (not the must have, but a reliable name) so that you don't end up throwing it away and buying another one.  Buy consigned, second hand and eBay is awesome!  I am always up for finding a good deal so if you need a little help just ask ; )

thanks for reading my rant, just something to think about...

"dumpster diving" its a fun sport...

My grandma use to talk about dumpster diving and all the fun things she would find...
In fact a mixer my mom had for years (and it was old when she got it, was always the story I heard) was found in a dumpster along with many other household items.  The best part about the stories growing up, was picturing my grandma "diving" in and coming out excited with her "new" treasures.

This is the bassinet/cradle Matthew and I found by the dumpster. People often put out furniture that needs repair or they no longer want, around the apartments and condos...so I thought hey, its free and we could make a project of it.  I also couldn't help to think about my mom and grandma "diving" into dumpsters : )  The picture above was taken after some fresh paint and a little patching. 

...some wood, foam and bedding later and the finished product!  It was a really fun project for Matthew and I to do before the baby came.  A great way to nest without spending too much money, and instead spending time together <3
My mom made the bumper and quilted the matching blanket...She did such a great job! We may have to sell these in our little shop one day.
Very cost effective, and it was great to be able to recycle something that would have ended up in a landfill.  Also fun that we get to use something my mom made, just for our baby girl, everyday.
ps ignore the mess in the background, lol...laundry day :)